Thursday, December 10, 2009

Love Letter to Superwoman.....

There was a time, mostly early in our relationship, that I wrote love letters to her very often. Not always long ones but always heartfelt ones. Heartfelt because I REALLY loved her.

When I met her she was the single mother of a nine year old daughter and a four year old son. She worked full time, was active in church, and was doing a super job raising her kids. She was the strongest woman I'd ever met. She woke up everyday with a job to do and she only new one way to do the job. With perfection. When she gave me the opportunity to be part of her life I knew I'd be crazy not to bathe in those waters. She made me a better man.

Over twenty years has passed and I never stopped loving her, but I stopped writing her love letters. I don't know why. I guess I thought there wasn't anything more to say.

Don't get me wrong, we had rough patches where we both thought the marriage was over, but we persevered. Then we crossed some magic threshold. We knew we would grow old together and it was going to be a good trip.

It is not fair to her that now, in what should be the payoff time for a job well done, she is handed the burden of watching me shrivel up and die.

Dearest Wife,

I love you! If I had my life with you to live over again, I would change very little. I would try to make better decisions at a few key spots and I would not stop writing you love letters. I was wrong, there
is lots more to say. I hope I have the time to say it all.

Forever and Always, b



  1. Far better the burden of tending the sick than that of the burden of losing the one that you love.

    There will be a time when the words cannot be heard, so far better it is too write the feelings of your heart on paper for the lonliness of long nights to come.

    Sometimes love can be felt far easier than it can be heard. I have an inkling she feels...

  2. One lucky wife you've got, its awesome that you appreciate her so much.

  3. You are both lucky to have found each other and shared so much love.

  4. Beautiful! Your wife is lucky to have such a thoughtful and loving man in her life. But knowing you, you would say you are the lucky one. Ya big sap. Let's break even with this and say that you're lucky to have each other.

    Have a great holiday season!

  5. What a beautiful post and even more beautiful letter. I think you are both very lucky that you found each other; her for getting such a loving, adoring, admiring husband and you for getting such a loving and supportive wife. I am sure there are lots more nice qualities and these words don't do justice but I hope I was able to convey sentiments..

    Hope you have a great holiday with your family.

  6. That is very moving and so beautiful. She must feel the love all the time, and so must you!


  7. Good thing to say these things while you still can, because-- well, you're a big boy, you can handle the truth-- CBD often progresses in cliffs.

  8. I think it is wonderful you are keeping a log of your thougts and feeling while going through all this as there isn't much information out there on this disease...I just found out that my brother in law was diagnosed with CBGD this past fall. He has always been so healthy and to know what this disease brings to both him and his caregiver is scarey. I only hope that I would have the strength to be what my husband would need when ever he should need it. Compassion on both parts will see your though... I even in everyday life have to live with CAT... that is my short cut for... Contentment with where I am at in life.... Acceptance with where I am at in life and Tolerance with where I am at.
    These three words weren't always easy for me...but they have become part of my life.. Life is really all about the Serenity prayer....and the ablility to live by it one day at a time.... Hang in there. I will pray..
    God's Blessings to both you, your wife and your family. Best Regards, Betty in Va.


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